If you want to know more...
...about me, then here you go. Random facts:
36 Things About Me
1. I'm the oldest of three children.
2. I like the smell of coffee better than the taste (but like to drink it, too).
3. It's really, really hard for me to settle on a "favorite" anything.
4. I like to sweat, which is why I don't mind hot weather or working out.
5. If I had a million dollars I'd probably spend most of it on me.
6. I love Indian food.
7. Elderly people kind of make me nervous.
8. Sometimes I wonder if I'll be a good mom.
9. I'm not ticklish---at least not like most people.
10. I love when someone lightly scratches my back or plays with my hair.
11. I buy a lot of products just because I like the packaging.
12. I've always wanted people to think that I smell good.
13. My ninth grade school experience was traumatic.
14. I love kissing.
15. I was totally into Barbie.
16. My hair hasn't always been curly. It went curly when I was 16.
17. I think cabbage is yummy.
18. I love Doritos.
19. I'm kind of afraid of falling.
20. I love being in the water.
21. I definitely prefer showers to baths.
22. I grew up in the central Western part of Brazil because we were missionaries.
23. After college, I lived in Cyprus for two years. No one ever visited from the States, so sometimes it feels like a two-year window of lost time.
24. Few things actually gross me out.
25. I've been on 5 of the 7 continents and in over 26 countries.
26. Swiss Cake Rolls are my favorite Little Debbie snack.
27. I've always wanted to be married.
28. I hate playing basketball.
29. I love to hear other people laugh.
30. I love that just my laugh can make my youngest brother laugh.
31. I love to see elderly couples holding hands.
32. Stress makes my neck and shoulders tense up.
33. When I'm old, I want young people to think I'm cool.
34. I've heard God speak to me in clear and distinct words.
35. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.
36. I always wished I had been born in "the Old Days" so I could live the prairie life.
posted by Lorie @ 10:51 AM
35 Comments:
Interesting facts about yourself. If you were to do #4, then #12 may not turn out in your best interest. You admit that you like kissing on your blog, and that you have always wanted to be married. Do you think it is wise to kiss dating goodbye as a general rule for Christian couples before marriage? Or, would you say that it depends on the self control of each couple?
Anon,
Do you mean do I think Christian couples should kiss kissing goodbye before marriage?
Hmmm...that is a tough one, I must say. Because, like I said, I love kissing. Past experience has shown that it can be very distracting and, sometimes, even derail the developing friendship and emotional intimacy. But in terms of hard, fast rules, I don't think there is one formula for every Christian couple. Because, apparently (and not that I remotely understand this) some couples don't struggle with physical "issues" the same way I have. Of course the temptation becomes greater the closer you get to a person (and the closer to marriage).
I do think that there is wisdom in knowing your own limits and deferring to one another out of respect (and love) in order to prevent the surpassing of those limits. For example, if one party believes that they should allow X amount of time before they kiss because they have seen patterns in previous relationships, etc., I think the other party should respect that and be willing to accept it, without being upset about it or tempting them to give in (as I have disrespectfully done in the past).
I would go so far as to say that a couple would probably find it in their best interest to wait until their relationship has a solid non-physical basis before kissing. Becoming physically intimate with a person, in any way, can breed a false sense of emotional intimacy, which is obviously counter-productive.
Just met a guy at the wedding last week who decided (with his fiance) no kissing until marriage. Except a kiss on the forhead, a simple cheeck kiss mayby. But no serious kissing.
I know for ne this would be wise as I know how I get once I get kissing. It really can lead into more than....so as being wise and reserved kissing can happen, yet save the real kisses for the marriage.
And yes it does depend on the couple's convictions and self-control.
you answered my question. I was referring to kissing in a dating relationship. I would go as far as suggesting that there is no need to kiss until one is engaged with definite plans to marry. There is no need in stirring the passions with so many different people--doing so only brings hurt and potential for sinning.
You people are tough on kissin'.
But I do think the principle is good: if you know you have trouble with the intimacy it brings and the opportunity/ desire for sex, it is best not to go there.
I would propose that the WORST time to start kissing is when you're engaged or have an impending wedding. I have it on good authority that (and I quote) "engagement sucks", in terms of trying to maintain sexual purity. Because by then your emotional intimacy is SO great and you know that you're going to be together anyway, so it's easier to rationalize precipitating things.
If anything, I'd be more likely to suggest that a couple put a moratorium on kissing when they get engaged, until the wedding!
I wouldn't put a moratorium at either time, but again, I think it's something for each couple to honestly communicate with each other about, and be open as to the degree of struggle they face and self-control they possess.
About the engagement period: definitely Lorie is right. It's easy to say, "We're getting married. That's for sure. We'll always be together. It's like we're already married." And before you know it, you've rationalized your way into bed. It happens all the time.
See, and I'm ALL ABOUT short engagements! :)
I would propose that the worst time to start kissing is during the "getting to know you" period of a relationship as this conduct clouds one's vision of the other person's character. Kissing is a great gift given by God, and it cand definitely "start me up" as the Stones sing. So, why start doing this activity before the engagement? And, yes, short engagements are a good thing!
I also believe short engagements are good, but hopefully there should be at least a few months between the "getting acquainted" and "Hey ma, we're getting married" phases, during which kissing will likely occur. And if the couple is committed and strong, there is reason to expect that they should be able to abstain from sex.
Now, I'm not saying that couples who agree not to kiss until marriage are wrong -- in fact, for some people (maybe even many people) it's a good idea. You know (or should know) your own heart. And of course you should take your partner's thoughts on this matter to heart as well. But I wouldn't formulate any hard and fast laws for Christian couples in general that say "no kissing till marriage."
Good discussion.
i respect people who want other people to think they smell good.
The world would be a better place if everyone cared for their scent.
Wait-is this the same "anon" as before?
Would you marry me?
I don't need to meet new people ever.
=D
I do agree with anon on the kissing in the "getting to know you" phase. It can be just as dangerous. But then if its a kiss of effection that you would give your mother or grandmother, peck on the checck, forehead....Im cool with that......but it does depend on the people. As even a simple kiss like that can still lead into the wrong path....more like wrong feelings or thoughts.
Not sure, Tricky Nikki. This blog -- or more likely, Lorie's picture -- draws the masked and anonymous. It's a fascinating case study.
Lorie-
Wanna sing with me (and JRo) this Friday night at Java on Frankfort Ave?
If you do, I have a little surprise for yoooouuuu!!
love reading all of these!!!! I will send my daughter your way! You guys are awesome and refreshing!
I would tip my hat to you if it wasn't wedged so tightly on my head.
Real anon here (anti-homeschooling)
Kissing...even the words 'kiss dating goodbye' makes it sound so much easier than 'tell dating no way', doesn't it?
For me personally, kissing is good and fun. Always has been. Could say that it 'leads' to certain things, although it could definitely be on the going-too-far train. But the locomotive on that train is usually an impure heart or impure motives, lust, lack of discipline, etc. Kissing, in and of itself, can't be the thing that makes it happen. You gotta take care of the main stuff first.
Poor kissing...gets such a bad rap...
That's what I'm saying, Real Anon! (the "real" bit cracked me up, btw).
Man!! Lorie's blog is where it's at. What's up with all this talk about kissing and not kissing lately?
I think I agree with you should have a solid non-physical relationship before you kiss. That way you also make sure you are going to be with this person longer than a month. Once the infatuation wears off. (i think someone wiser than me told me that recently)
She will be quite pleased we kept things up while she was selling sea shells at the sea shore.
Walter -- my head is spinning, man.
what the frak is up with that super long spam comment? as far as kissing goes, i will have to agree there has to be a firmly established level of some commitment before kissing. not exactly engagement, but in terms of the couple has been together for a while, and they are certain they want to spend the rest of their lives together.
We should eat cabbage and/or Indian food sometime soon. :)
Indian food is good...anyone ever had an Indian kiss?
We could only do the Eskimo kiss befor marriage. *grin*
Eskimo kisses are cool!
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When I see so many strong reactions to the idea of not kissing, I want to ask, "Why not?" Why not no kissing?
What does it say when we can't even imagine the thought of not kissing someone?
This started out when Lori said "I like kissing." Then others concurred with her sentiment, but when someone brought up the idea of not kissing the group started to put guidelines on when it should be allowed.
As Christian men and women we should care enough about our own purity and the purity of the one we are courting that we may want to condsider Why not no kissing?
I do say that every Christian couple should consider this and could say that they would benefit from it no matter who they are and not matter what their struggles are.
So, why not no kissing?
Because bad (fun) habits die hard. :)
I think it's mosly a cultural thing. We're programmed to know that when two people really like each other, they'll show it by kissing. And, let's face it---when we really like someone, we WANT to kiss them, whether we choose to squelch the desire or not. Not to mention that if a person has experienced the joys of kissing at some point, it's hard not to want more o' dat! :)
But I think that we can choose not to express (or indulge) ourselves by kissing and that this, many times, is the wisest course of action. It is, however, counter-cultural and counter-intuitive, which is why it seems weird or hard to imagine.
Kiss me baby, my tonsils itch
has anyone ever kissed anyone who had the "stanky breath" and you didn't want to hurt the person's feelings by saying so?
Yeah morning breath kisses.....i hate even my own breath then.
Lorie,
Reading your list makes me laugh. We still have so much in common... it's weird!
Love you friend!
Sua amiga Brasileira de Spartanburg
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